Not the last time my friend Briar was in town, but the time before, she and her husband stayed with us while he was recovering from his hysterectomy. I was thrilled to have them stay with us, and was anxious that his surgery went well, but was mostly excited to be able to tell people, "My friend Briar and her husband are staying with us while her husband recovers from his hysterectomy." It's one of those phrases that you don't really get to utter, or hear, very often in life. The day that her husband came back from the hospital, Briar announced matter-of-factly, "We have a whole jar of Percocet!" As if the fact that he had something made it automatically hers as well. He didn't seem to mind, but maybe it was the Percocet.

Jenya and I do not have such a casual sharing of our things, but then again, we aren't married, although we do live together, in sin. We are both only children, but while she is a very accomplished sharer, I like to have things that are my own. All mine, and maybe I will share it with you, but only if I offer, not if you just take it.

I am wondering if somewhere along with getting married comes a "everything is now ours" clause. I think that if there is such a clause I will strike it out and change it to "I want some of all of your things, but you should have to ask me before you have some of my things." And to make it fair, I might be willing to ask before taking your things. Also, when people get married do they automatically start having shared monies and finances? And what about schedules? Once people are married do they know what the other person is doing all the time? Like "my spouse is not at home, my spouse is out buying shoes" sort of a thing. These are the things I am wondering about this morning.